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If you haven't tried them already, I would recommend YoungMinds.
As well as a really helpful website, Young Minds have a parents' helpline. When I was in a similar situation to you earlier this year, they were fantastically helpful. I spoke to a volunteer CAMHS practitioner who was so supportive, gave me really practical advice and informed me about our rights as regards education and treatment.