Hi,

Sue - your words are totally understandable. This whole thing is one big frustration and sometimes more than we can take!
My son has been going to school for one and a half weeks but suddenly now this morning - a total meltdown. He is totally distraught - crying uncontrollably - and saying he wants to end it all. He also says he has sore legs and seems to have totally got obsessed about how much they hurt. Presumably from playing sport and thrown in as an excuse - but the other seems out of his control. He didn't cope all that well yesterday and so tipped over the edge today. He says he has no real friends (they put him in a class without his friends....another action at the school that astounds me). Yet on days when he copes - the kids he hangs out with are his 'friends' and he does have one particular friend. Although he does try too hard to fit in with the cool crowd sometimes). So is it only on vulnerable days that he feels lost or is he really finding it hard to socialise? He often brings his lunch home - says he was not able to eat as he felt ill when it came time to eat.
I am not sure what I feel more hopeless about - his situation and condition this morning or how isolated we can feel and guilty that we don't get them to school and what others wiill think of us.

Sorry - this is my little outburst today.....I am so glad you guys are here as in the past I have ended up a wreck myself and often the amount of tears in the house is enough to break the drought!
I will book into the Cognitive Behaviour today. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day. We can only hope that the situation changes rather than remains totally static. Why are our kids going through this?
I notice they have just made a link with ADHS with a pesticide used on fruit and vegetables. Are our kids vulnerable to this kind of thing too?
Thanks again for you all being out there and any of you also having a bad day today - we must all hold onto hope and take the small things as big steps.
In my case I guess one and a half weeks in a row was a great achievement for him. And Sue - I know how you feel not being told about things. I am forever trying to find out what notices were sent home etc - only to find out this week that a notice that we never got outlined the costume the kids were meant to wear for the school musical (not that he'll probably go). That is one of many we miss. And once again - it doesn't matter - this is in the scheme of things a small thing - but it is an indication that we often feel left out (and so do our kids). The teachers are understandably busy - but if only there was one person who looked after our kids interests we might have a link - and so might our children. Time to sit down with a strong cuppa!
Linda

Linda - i too have had a bad bad but my son hasn't !! Don't you know any other SR where you are ? how supportive is the school ?

You mentioned about what others think - at first i was actually ashamed - now i am totally vocal about it - i have a kind and considerate son ( at Christmas he just wanted to help at a centre for homeless to give them a better time ) he is healthy and I am proud of him.

Someone at the weekend asked me why don't i just make him go to school - i just laughed - they have no idea.

Take care and keep in touch

Sar xx