Hello - i am Sarahs son, and i want to thank all the people that have helped my mum when things have been hard. I hate to see her so upset and i do try hard but i find school and going out very difficult. please try and understand that we don't play up on purpose we just can't always do it. mum has been brilliant and has hugged me when i get upset, talks to me for hours and hours until late at night and reassures me when i panic and believes me. i want to say sorry to her and if could change things i would. i know that she talks to sue and that she has been a good friend to mum so thank you so so so much. if anyone can perform magic please wave your wand and make 2011 good for us all. merry christmas and hopefully a good new year.

Hi, 'Sarah's Son'.

You have a great Mum who cares for you a lot - and is supportive of other parents who have been using this website.

You both deserve a good Christmas, and even if the parcel delivery men don't get to your house (we are having real problems here), I hope that Santa's sleigh finds its way to your chimney!

I do not have that magic wand, but I think 20l1 WILL be better for you.

Take care, and thanks for writing,

Simon

Dear 'Sarah's son' - it was a lovely surprise to read your post. Thanks for having the thought and courage to thank others who help your mum when things get tough. You have a great mum who is there for you and I know with my own son - it is so important that you have someone who 'believes' you. It must be very hard for you - we all wish we had a magic wand but there will be steps along the way that will help you and our children too. You are not alone. Enjoy the Christmas break and don't worry about after that - take each day as it comes. Sorry you have so much snow and ice! You must have sent some down here to Australia as it is usually very hot at this time of year but we even have snow in the mountains!

And thank you so much Simon for this Forum - I no longer have to feel my son and I are doing this alone.
Best wishes,
Linda

Sarah and son

I just have to say, reading your message has brought a tear to my eye, it could have been my son writing it, it really hits home what our children are going through, and as hard as it is for us, it is so much harder for them, Sarah your son is a credit to you.

Happy christmas to everyone, hope you ll enjoy the holidays and the stress free time we can all enjoy with our children.

Take care
Dorothy x

What a lovely message. I hope 2011 is a good year for you and everybody and their families on this site x

Penny

I would like to say a huge thank you to my wonderful son. Couple of days before Christmas my son had a couple of friends over for a sleepover and I had what i can only describe as a panic attack - this was totally out of the blue, no reason at all for it, and i can honestly say one of the worst experiences i have ever had ( i have never had a panic attack before ) ooooooh. My son was lovely, he sat with me even though i told him to go back to his friends but he wouldn't, saying no one having a panic attack should be on their own. It lasted about 15 minutes and I was fine afterwards. I now realise how awful these attacks are, and it has made me realise what my son goes through on a daily basis especially at school - you know what it had made me even more determined to fight for my son and support anyone going through the same. I honestly didn't realise that you actullay think you are going to die during an attack I just hope I never have another one - just wish he didn't have to suffer either.

I have always believed my son but didn't realise just how bad things are for him. Well if you read this message i want to thank you too - we will support each other and we WILL get there in the end.

Mum xx

Sarah,

I thought that I had replied to this earlier - must have pressed the wrong button?

You do, indeed, have an amazing son. I hope that he goes from strength to strength on 2011.

My concern is now with you. Are you OK?

Has all the stress caught up with you? Are you getting any support?

Please feel free to get in touch,

Simon

Simon - thank you for your concern. To be perfectly honest i am numb with it all. My youngest son yr 7 has always suffered badly with allergies ( we have just seen a specialist - had to go private though £200 initial consultation ) anyway school have called me several times to fetch him from school when he is really bad and have now sent me a letter saying his attendance is below the year average !! ( he did have a day when i think he could have gone in but didn't ) but even when he isn't 100% will go because he knows what problems we have had with his sr brother- then school call !! I just feel as though a can't win - what am i supposed to do refuse to bring him home ? I can't cry anymore. It's back to work Tuesday so i am hoping routine will make me snap out of it.

Once again thank you.

Sar x