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Giving up!

Hi all,
Just wondered if anyone had taken the plunge and given up with school! Mine has been refusing school for 2 years he has attended in that time but not regularly and not for long periods, cahms have given up with him, school are happy for him to do whatever he can and I'm not being threatened with fines but just wondered how long I can spend every day trying to get him into school it's exhausting.
He is currently sleeping all day awake all night so he can't go ☹️
Anyone tried homeschooling and taking pressure off?

Re: Giving up!

Hi Bailey44,

Sounds like you're feeing pretty drained. Undestandable after 2 years of trying....and very familiar.I know how you feel.
Some on here have home schooled and very succesfully. If you are in a position whereyou can do this then I'd give it a go.
The longer they stay away from school, the harder it is ti get them back, so we have to follow what alternatives are available.
See if there is a home school group in your area. They might give advice and support but are also able to be linked up with to do group activities or some socialising so your son is not completely isolated.

The sleep thing is a worry, isn't it. Have our kids had their sleep patterns interfered with by the technology? Or does anxiety lend itself to feeling more comfortable at night (away from the threats of forcing to school, repsonsibility, socialising, being seen etc)?
My son has sleep issues for a very long time and is doing much the same as you describe. And technology is not the cause sometimes although it does play a big role. But last night, after another challenge to get him to sleep before 1.30am...he said he feels much better at night. I still am not sure why but suspect its a bit of the technolgy and anxiety combined.
What can one do to change the sleeping habits of a teenager?
Sorry I don't have the answer to that.

There is a link to Home Education in the resource section. See what you find.
Meanwhile...don't give up on your son. Go through the steps, if. you haven't already, of acceptance, then embracing of where your son is right now. If it is typical school refusal, then it will help you both move forward. What do you think started all of this? Was it the change to secondary school?

Let us know what you decide and if you need some more ideas on the home schooling option, don't hesitate to ask.
Take care,
Linda

Re: Giving up!

Never give up! School at present may not be the option but there is light at the end of a hellish tunnel!

My daughter was a school refuser for over 2 years!

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