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Re: EMDR

Hi Sharry

It does sound like something that might just clear the mind of your daughter and help her move into a better place. Makes me wonder if my son needs something like that to move on from so many years of negativity of not being able to attend school. It hangs over his head like a dark reminder of the past that is not so past...but still with him.

I also sometimes wonder if his difficult birth and also my high stress during the pregnancy when I found out my ex was having an affair and was going to leave didn't produce a whole lot of stress hormones of some kind that made him highly alert to danger from way back then. how does one change the chemical or learnt patterns from that far back?
I will await to hear how you feel it goes before looking into it myself.

I remember your daughter's story well as I felt so sad reading your description of her destined to be a ballerina and then the homesickness triggering such trauma for her. I think I was at the time painting the ballet dancers at our local group. You wouldn't think something like that can effect other aspects of life. We are seeing more and more that such things do render our kids unable to face life as they used to. They just go into lock down, don't they.
But so glad to hear about her attendance for some education and reaching out to her friends again.
My son still remains isolated (except for family and he does go to some shopping centres with me...if they are miles away from th schools he attended!!), and does not want to connect with any friends from his first high school. I cannot image what it must be like to be their age and have no friends.

I hope your daughter continues with these steps forward....small for us as parents to watch but big ones for her.
Hear from you again
Take care
Linda