Hi

Maybe see any schooling at home as a stepping stone.
But wait for a diagnosis of some kind. Even if your son does have Aspergers - you can't actually force him to keep going - it is just too stressful for everyone involved. You can try your best - encourage- psych into going etc but if it just doesn't happen - then home schooling is better than doing nothing. And it might not be for all of his schooling years. If he can gain confidence and self esteem during any home schooling - then he might want to go to school for the final year or two. Some people say home schooling was the only answer for them. It works for some - but not all. I did not choose this as my son was an only child - so felt he was missing out on friendships...who knows....

And maybe your son might be able to join a local home school group - many meet for activities. He might join a club? OR he might not. It is not the end of the world. My son has been isolated from having friends for the last couple of years - and yet he can still socialise well around adults and kids if he has to. He keeps in touch with some kids his own age by playing computer games and on social media. People told me this would be terrible for him - but seems perhaps it hasn't been so bad.
And today he went all by himself to enrol to do his final year of schooling at a college....who'd have thought.
So....there is no 'one way fits all' and don't let others make you feel bad. They have absolutely no idea what you go through. And they might never get it. I went through several years of criticism from others. My sister in law told me I was just not strict enough. My sister thought it was me initially too. Mums at the school said 'if it was my son...'
I learnt who was on my side early on and stuck with them. Mums whose kids do have autism or any disability have heaps of sympathy. The know how upside down your life can be.
Take care and there will be an answer out there for you. Come on here any time and just off load or ask for help.
Linda