I've seen it--there are only perfect dogs w/o problems and they seem to be always winning and beautiful homes and loving husbands.

Friends tell you what you want to hear! What if you have a problem or issue that you don't want your friends to know about? There's good reasons and advantages to posting anonymously but it does open the door for bad behavior. So what? Use your brain ignore those posts that bother you and lighten up, complaining about behavior that you don't like is bad behavior too.

I think both the Forum and Facebook are valuable.

True, the Forum can get nasty, so I just ignore those folks. But, I have learned some extremely valuable information on the Forum and would be lost without it.

True, Facebook folks all tell their "friends" what they think they want to hear, but I make my own mind up about that too. Besides, when I want a little dose of virtual friendship, I simply go to Facebook and look at all the happy postings and the funny videos to make me smile. So much better than being grumpy...